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Obi Cubana Mother’s Funeral Matters Arising “Chief Chukwudi Nwokoye writes” [Must Read]



Obi Cubana Mother’s Funeral Matters Arising

~Chukwudi Nwokoye

“Six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus lived, whom Jesus had raised from the dead. Here a dinner was given in Jesus’ honor. Martha served, while Lazarus was among those reclining at the table with him. Then Mary took about a pint of pure nard, an expensive perfume; she poured it on Jesus’ feet and wiped his feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume.

But one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, who was later to betray him, objected, “Why wasn’t this perfume sold and the money given to the poor? It was worth a year’s wages.” He did not say this because he cared about the poor but because he was a thief; as keeper of the money bag, he used to help himself to what was put into it.

“Leave her alone,” Jesus replied. “It was intended that she should save this perfume for the day of my burial. You will always have the poor among you, but you will not always have me.”

~John 12:1-8

A lot of things have been said about Obi Cubana’s mother’s burial, by far the most popular funeral in Anambra in recent years. Many have alluded to the fact that it was an unnecessary show of wealth. Others have said that the excess cows, goats, beers etc could have been sold to feed the poor. Some other people have said that it was ill-gotten wealth and painted us Igbo people or reinforced the stereotypes of us as “ndi ogwu ego”.

Let me say right away that Obi Cubana is very wealthy and have helped a lot of people in the spirit of Onye Aghana Nwanne Ya. Before this his mother’s burial, which apparently made many more people to know about him, I have heard much about how Obi Cubana was helping lots of people, both friends, family and even strangers, and showing them the ropes be rich. I also heard about how he fell out with one of his men whom he helped, and how they finally made up with each other.

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Many of the people he mentored are coming to his aide on his mother’s funeral to show him appreciation for what he had done for them. Others are just appreciating him in the hope that if they have their own events in the future, that he would in return come to their aide also. Others are just trying to position themselves for his future patronage.

I do not know why some of our people appear to be anti-rich or anti-wealth. Most times, it’s out of envy and jealousy and because it reminds people of their own failures. You are damned if you are rich, and you are damned if you aren’t. To them, everyone that makes money must have done something fetish, diabolical, dirty, filthy yahoo yahoo, or must have got patronage from government. At the same time, same people would not have the guts to go after the corrupt government officials and politicians that are daily looting our patrimony.

People are very funny. On one breathe, they would tell you how much Igbo people hate each other and would always run each other down, and would kill each other when they get their own country, as if they even love Igbo people to begin with. On the other breathe, they would tell you how much money and gifts that Obi’s friends/associates had gifted to him to be able to execute his mother’s burial; and how negative or show of shame that it is. The immense cooperation that they are giving him becomes a negative thing.

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Every wealth does not come from evil deeds. If you keep your hands clean, in good terms with your ‘chi’ and your ancestors, and give them their dues, they would always clear the road for you and attract positive vibes your way. This is not contestable.

Our people should learn to think positively. Get your mind off negativity. Rejoice with your friends and family that made it through dint of hard work. I believe that if you have open mind, have a positive attitude towards wealth and riches, one day could be your day. Every dog has its own day. Remove jealousy and envy from your system. You are blocking your own success and that of your children when all you churn out is negativity towards success, or uncomfortable when you see real wealth. As we say in my place, “aku enwero be”-wealth has no permanent dwelling place. It could locate you anytime unless your negative attitudes drive it away.

Also another thing that our people do is that they are unnecessary referees of other people’s wealth. When you use your own money to fete yourself or try to do certain things that would bring you personal happiness or fulfillment, some people would remind you of things that you would rather do with the money than ‘waste’ it on frivolities. Who made you the judge or prince over someone else’s money. Is the way he spends his money taking a toll on how money comes straight to your pocket? When you are working hard for your money and depriving yourself of a lot of things to try to help others, not many people would see you. Some would even tell you that you stress yourself too much. But then, when you spend that same money on them, they would not see it as wasteful.

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When try to have a little fun or make merry, eyes would be on you reminding you about the poor that needed food, roads that needed to be tarred, hospitals that needed to be build, houses of God (churches) that needed to be built, industries that needed to be constructed, school, libraries, research centers, laboratories, IT centers etc that needed to be established. The same people would not be there to tell you that you were working so hard.

Even when some relatives were telling you about too much money you are spending, they weren’t really telling you that because they really cared. They are telling you to reduce spending, because they have requests that they are preparing to make of you, which they feared that your spending those money on events would leave none to give to them.

Leave people alone to do what they want to do with their money. Go and make your own money and spend it anyhow you deem fit. If they steal from you, then it is a different thing.

The big lesson we must learn from Obi Cubana is that a candle loses nothing if he lights one million more candles. A rising tide lifts all boats. “Ogalanya ofu onye bu ubiam”-only one wealthy person in the family is actually poverty. “Anyu miara m, nya miara ikwu na ibe m, ka m richaa nke m”.-if my neighbor and I both get our own pumkins, I would finish mine alone. “Umunna nwezuo aku, ilo anaa”-if everyone in my kindred has his own wealth, jealousy, envy and enmity would be a thing of the past.

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Vincent Onyegaegbochi Okoye (born 23rd April) is a Nigerian blogger, writer, entrepreneur and a librarian. Born and raised in a Catholic Family from NRI in anaocha local Government Area of Anambra state, Nigeria, Graduated from Delta state university, Abraka, in the year 2018 where he studied Library and Information Science.

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